Do Unto Others, and other misunderstood concepts of love

JeffLogan's picture

In His discourse upon the Mount of Blessings Jesus said the following:

    Matthew 7 (DRB)
    12 All things therefore whatsoever you would that men should do to you, do you also to them. For this is the law and the prophets.

From this we get the Golden Rule--"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." But could it be that with our modern understanding--or, should I say, misunderstanding--we have applied this rule according to our personal preferences?

What I am saying is this. If a particular man happened to dream about being sexually overpowered by a particular women would it be a proper application of this rule for him to do to her as he wants her to do to him? I mean, after all, he is only doing to her that which he wants her to do to him. Isn't that the Golden Rule?

Of course, that is an extreme example. But it makes my point very well. Could it be that we too think that we are applying the Golden Rule when we do unto others things that we would want done unto us even if those things we do are not well received by others? Or worse, actually contradict the intent of the Golden Rule?

I listened to a motivational speaker recently and he thought to improve on the Golden Rule. In fact, he considered his rule of more value than the Golden Rule so he called it the Platinum Rule. The Platinum Rule states, in very simple terms, that instead of doing unto others what we would like done unto us, we ought to do unto others what they would like done unto them. Of course, his point was that there are different strokes for different folks; meaning that different personalities like to be treated differently.

As I thought about his Platinum Rule I considered the true intent of Jesus' words. What did Jesus mean when He said, "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you?" I knew it was of the purest intent and wondered how we are to interpret that today. What is the foundation laid in the Word of God for a correct understanding of this rule?

I'd like to hear your thoughts...

kt_o's picture

The Golden Rule

Hello Jeff,
I was pleased to see this topic because what was once perhaps taken for granted, seems to be almost deliberately distorted in this day.
I believe the foundation laid in the Word of God for a correct understanding of this rule is found in the Ten Commandments. Who wants to be lied to, robbed, or have anything dangerously coveted by another?
I will go a step further in citing Jesus' parable of the Good Samaritan. Anyone hurting and in need, would surely be grateful for assistance.