1Co 14:11 But if I don't understand the language that someone is using, we will be like foreigners to each other.
1Co 14:12 If you really want spiritual gifts, choose the ones that will be most helpful to the church.
1Co 14:13 When we speak languages that others don't know, we should pray for the power to explain what we mean.
The word choose is G2212
Of uncertain affinity; to seek (literally or figuratively); specifically (by Hebraism) to worship (God), or (in a bad sense) to plot (against life): - be (go) about, desire, endeavour, enquire (for), require, (X will) seek (after, for, means). Compare G4441.
As I understand this verse I can choose the spiritul gifts I want and since i see no exclusion that would include tongues. so then if I can choose my gifts what does that say for tongues being a sign of salvation? How then do we respond to the brother that says he has no spiritual gift from God? Can we choose to be healers? what spiritual gift did you choose?