LITTLE FLOWERS OF SAINT FRANCIS OF ASSISI, Chapter 43
HOW BROTHER CONRAD OF OFFIDA CONVERTED A YOUNG BROTHER, WHO WAS A STUMBLING BLOCK TO THE OTHER BROTHERS, AND HOW AFTER DEATH HIS SOUL APPEARED TO BROTHER CONRAD, BEGGING HIM TO PRAY FOR HIM, AND HOW THROUGH HIS PRAYER HE WAS DELIVERED FROM THE GREAT PAINS OF PURGATORY
Some topics that come up in this chapter are, reproving with charity, purgatory, and praying for the souls of those deceased.
Reproving with charity is maybe one of the more difficult topics we have to deal with in trying to live the Christian life. Tolerance and not judging are values often mentioned, but there are stories in the Bible about people receiving consequences for not reproving what needed to be reproved. The one that comes to mind is in Samuel somewhere, a priest who doesn't reprove the inappropriate behavior of his sons. Maybe someone can help me with chapter and verse, or a name. And when reproval is given, those who don't accept it often say that it wasn't done "in love," which is a difficult judgement call.
Purgatory and the praying for the souls of the deceased are topics that go together. As a musician, I've played in a few requiems. Since prayer is a pouring out to God of the things that trouble us, the topic of the souls of recently departed loved ones is certainly a topic for prayer. Maybe purgatory, whether there is such a thing and what it's like, is a concept that's no longer believed, or is taken in a different sense than formerly. I seem to recall references in the Bible to souls passing through a refiner's fire. I have no opinion about whether this is about torment for long periods, or not to be taken literally.