To what extent do we as humans have free will and to what extent has God predestined our lives?
Don't know about Calvinists, but God's sovereignty is why I believe in predestination. Perhaps we all need to be less sensitive, more loving, more tolerant, and more hungry for truth even if it hurts. Everyone has to work out his own salvation with fear and trembling, and all are still working on that; it's a lifelong, ongoing process.
It's not about me; it's all about Him.