14. It is, therefore, the
present necessity that we are to avoid, but yet such as is a
hindrance to somewhat of the good things to come; by which
necessity the married life is forced to have thought of the things
of the world, how to please, the husband the wife or the wife the
husband. Not that these separate from the kingdom of God, as there
are sins, which are restrained by command, not by counsel, on this
account, because it is matter of condemnation not to obey the Lord
when He commands: but that, which, within the kingdom of God
itself, might be more largely possessed, if there were larger
thoughts how they were to please God, will assuredly be less, when
as this very thing is less thought of by necessity of marriage.
Therefore he says, “Concerning virgins I have not command of the
Lord.”20472047 For
whosoever obeys not a command, is guilty and liable for punishment.
Wherefore, because it is not sin to marry a wife or to be married,
(but if it were a sin, it would be forbidden by a “Command,”)
on this account there is no “Command” of the Lord concerning
virgins. But since, after we have shunned or had forgiveness of
sins, we must approach eternal life, wherein is a certain or more
excellent glory, to be assigned not unto all who shall live for
ever, but unto certain there; in order to obtain which it is not
enough to have been set free from sins, unless there be vowed unto
Him, Who setteth us free, something, which it is no matter of fault
not to have vowed, but matter of praise to have vowed and
performed; he saith, “I give counsel, as having obtained mercy
from God that I should be faithful.” For neither ought I to
grudge faithful counsel, who not by my own merits, but by the mercy
of God, am faithful. “I think therefore that this is good, by
reason of the present necessity.”20482048 This, saith he, on which I have
not command of the Lord, but give counsel, that is concerning
virgins, I think to be good by reason of the present necessity. For
I know what the necessity of the present time, unto which marriages
serve, compels, that the things of God be less thought of than is
enough for the obtaining that glory, which shall not be of all,
although they abide in eternal life and salvation: “For star
differeth from star in brightness; so also the Resurrection of the
dead.20492049 It is,”
therefore, “good for a man so to be.”