3. But you say, that you
therefore believe your friend, whose heart you cannot see, because
you have proved him in your trials, and have come to know of what
manner of spirit he was towards you in your dangers, wherein he
deserted you not. Seemeth it therefore to you that we must wish for
our own affliction, that our friend’s love towards us may be
proved? And shall no man be happy in most sure friends, unless he
shall be unhappy through adversity? so that, forsooth, he enjoy not
the tried love of the other, unless he be racked by pain and fear
of his own? And how in the having of true friends can that
happiness be wished for, and not rather feared, which nothing save
unhappiness can put to the proof? And yet it is true that a friend
may be had also in prosperity, but proved more surely in adversity.
But assuredly in order to prove him, neither would you commit
yourself to dangers of your own, unless you believed; and thus,
when you commit yourself in order to prove, you believe before you
prove. For surely, if we ought not to believe things not seen,16551655 since
indeed we believe the hearts of our friends, and that, not yet
surely proved; and, after we shall have proved them good by our own
ills, even then we believe rather than see their good will towards
us: except that so great is faith, that, not unsuitably, we judge
that we see, with certain eyes of it, that which we believe,
whereas we ought therefore to believe, because we cannot
see.